For Words at a Loss by Michael Baum + Andrew Kishler + Patricia Kishler

For Words at a Loss

The Church’s Response to Miscarriage & Stillbirth Needs More Work

by Michael Baum, Andrew & Patricia Kishler

The day after Memorial Day 2009, our family attended a very small funeral at St. Tikhon’s Monastery in the hills of northeastern Pennsylvania. The cemetery setting was lovely, the mourners few. The hand-dug grave was small and the coffin smaller still: a wooden box about six inches long, hand-crafted by a grandfather of the deceased.

We were burying our expected child, brother, and grandchild, who had lived only two months in his mother’s womb. Our hearts wept as the officiating priests read the Orthodox funeral service for infan . . .